25 Nov, 2020 The Unknowns In Life: How To Deal With Them

by Bethany Dumbleton

It can be hard to know how to face all of the unknowns in life.

A while back I heard a song that really spoke to me. I love music and lyrically this song spoke straight to my soul. Do you have a song like that? Sometimes a song will take us back to a moment in life or make us dream of a future moment. It’s neat to me how when words and melodies are combined they tell us a story or provoke a certain feeling in us. When I heard this song it immediately took me straight to the throne of Jesus. It made me think about how to deal with all of the unknowns in life. I went to a new place of surrender.

A need for control becomes a problem when the unknowns in life cause you to get anxious. I had never realized how much I struggled with needing to feel like I was in control of my life. When I think about it now, it is pretty funny because the longer I live the more I realize that I don’t have much control at all.

Don’t our decisions control the outcome?

Don’t get me wrong, I know my decisions determine a lot of things. What career to have, who to marry, where to live? All of these are decisions that I get to make, things that I can control. But there are some decisions that really aren’t up to me. Sometimes other people’s decisions decide for us what our circumstances look like. THIS part of life I know a lot about. For the last ten years, I was unsure of how my life would play out. Many things would be determined by decisions someone else would make. The decision made would begin the words to the next chapter in my story.

That’s when my need for control began.

I sat anxiously waiting for someone else to determine what they felt would be best for them and then I would need to work my life around it. The scary part of that was the fact that this person was selfish. In it for themself. This person didn’t care about my life, what happened to me, or how I felt. This person was not trustworthy.

I’m here to say that when I heard this song for the first time I realized not only was I okay with walking into unknown places, but I was truly desiring it. It sounded thrilling and exhilarating. A great adventure! So what was the difference? The difference was who was calling me into the unknown.

GOD vs man.

GOD- trustworthy.

In my life, God had proven to be just, faithful, loving, gracious, selfless, forgiving, safe.

Man- untrustworthy.

Man, however, had proven to be selfish, needy, greedy, prideful, deceitful, and dangerous.

Now I listen to the words of this song and I’m filled with peace instead of anxiety, being filled with hopeful expectations instead of the dread of the future. I get to listen with excited ears instead of apathetic ears. Who knew that walking into a wilderness that you have never ventured into before could leave you feeling an overwhelming sense of harmony? This is what happens when you decide to let the perfect God be your guide into the unknown. His voice is your arrow.

You will stand strong through the unknowns in life in perfect peace. And then, in the most perfect timing, you will see the light breakthrough.

“You keep him in perfect peace whose mind is stayed on you because he trusts in you.” Isaiah 26:3

Bethany Dumbleton is the Chief Operations Officer for Counter Culture mom. She is first and foremost a devoted follower of Jesus Christ.

Her husband and two children are her main ministry which overflows into her life ministry. She knows that our children follow our example. She strives to help parents grow in Christ, so they may shepherd their children biblically.

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