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The Triple D’s of Fifty Shades

Fifty Shades of Grey deceives people by promoting bondage, abuse and sexual violence as being normal and acceptable. Here’s why we should steer clear.

Deception. Destruction. Disappointment. That’s what you can expect from the movie Fifty Shades of Grey. 

If the starring actor, Dakota Johnson, is warning her own parents to not see her most recent film, this should be a major warning sign for the rest of us. This movie is anything but what the title suggests. The author’s objective is to make the topic of sadomasochistic sex as acceptable and exciting.

According to Wikipedia, “Surveys show that grey is the color most commonly associated with conformity, boredom, indifference and modesty.” It’s an intermediate, neutral color between black and white. The movie’s title is deceptive and misleading and numerous psychologists warn that the behavior promoted is dangerous and destructive.

I believe people are flocking to the theater to see this flick because of their curiosity in why this is one of the most talked about films ever made. That, or people are wanting to fill a void and are mistakingly thinking what this movie portrays may be the answer. People can become discontented in their current relationships as a result. But is this curiosity worth the consequences of exposing our minds to these images?  With just reading the reviews alone, I would answer with a resounding NO!  Yet, it is pertinent we analyze this movie, since it made a record-breaking 81.7 million in it’s opening weekend alone.

Full-frontal nudity and multiple sex scenes with very explicit sounds and images are shown throughout the movie. The scenes were as erotic as the R rating system would allow, meaning, movie makers do not have our best interest at heart. Sex scenes happen in a torture chamber where many sex toys hang on the walls.  Nothing left to the imagination. Christian, one of the main characters, mentioned that he was sexually abused as a teen for 6 years and his mother died as a crack addict when he was just 4 years old. He mentioned that these factors caused him to become sexually violent.

One of the most graphic parts of the movie involves a punishment scene where Christian lashes Ana 6 times with a belt. Not only does this qualify as domestic violence but it depicts an extremely unhealthy relationship. I could address the dangers in promoting sex toys, violence, etc. to today’s youth, but instead I want to focus on all of the sadomasochistic sex scenes throughout this movie. Webster’s Dictionary defines sadomasochistic as, “The derivation of pleasure from the infliction of physical or mental pain either on others or on oneself.” Sadomasochistic sex is basically violent pornography.

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According to a study done by California State Univeristy – Northridge, “Sadomasochism is a humiliating and degrading form of sexual perversion practiced by those who suffer from emotional problems. Studies have shown that prior emotional, sexual, and/or physical abuse can contribute to a person’s need to engage in this self-destructive behavior. Unfortunately, death has resulted from this form of sex-play. Sadomasochism is dangerous and should be addressed as a perversion that requires psychological therapy.” This summarizes why Fifty Shades of Grey is so damaging and why many are speaking out against watching the movies or reading the books.

I want to encourage you to not feel pressured to go see, buy, read and do what the culture, celebrities and our friends are saying we JUST CAN’T LIVE WITHOUT. Truth be told, once these images are in our mind, we can’t easily, if at all, erase them. This movie should come with a preview which warns all audience members of the issues that can and will arise if we subject ourselves to these graphic scenes. If we have the starring actress warning her fans and parents to steer clear, it should raise a huge red flag that we should keep our hard earned dollars for a much better movie choice or better yet, donate to a local domestic violence shelter.

Question: What movies have you seen that promoted healthy relationships? You can leave a comment by clicking here.

This is a great thought-provoking video to watch regarding the dangers of watching and reading Fifty Shades of Grey.

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  • Ron
    Posted at 07:16h, 17 February Reply

    “Finding Normal” – great movie about the internal struggle needed to move from a relationship based on today’s culture to a relationship based on fulfilling God’s view of you.

    • Tina
      Posted at 11:30h, 01 March Reply

      Ron! This sounds like an awesome movie! I will look it up and watch! I love movies like this and wish there were so many more to choose from.

  • Laurie Grathen
    Posted at 07:32h, 17 February Reply

    If anyone out there was thinking 2 steps ahead, they’d realize how schizophrenic our culture has become. At the same time there’s a big push right now in media and culture to stop domestic violence ( and all those commercials starting major cultural figures), everyone’s talking about this movie which celebrates domestic violence. Good for you for pointing out the deception, Tina. We can’t have it both ways and be a healthy society. Time for us to make a clear choice between whether or not we’re going to be a virtuous people or not. Some people may think there’s plenty of gray area in making the choice, but the consequences of that choice are black and white.

    • Tina
      Posted at 11:29h, 01 March Reply

      Laurie! You’re right on! I wish our media would cover the GOOD things people are doing to raise awareness and much more funding would be raised and used to help those that are involved or victims of domestic violence. I’m so glad commercials are coming out expressing concern, but much more needs to be done! Thank you for your encouragement and your support 🙂

  • Kirk Rogers
    Posted at 11:12h, 17 February Reply

    Such movies have been made for many decades. They didn’t used to be mainstream. People would be ashamed to be caught watching them. Difference now is major movie makers are producing such movies, they are being shown in large “respectable” theaters, and it is becoming respectable and normal to go to such movies. There is no more shame, and no consciousness of the danger. Or some consciousness of it, but a desire to dabble in it. The contrast between the perversion depicted and the general mindset of the average moviegoer is narrowing. And the perversion is drawing the viewers in its direction, to think it is normal, to experiment with it. The result is further tendency in the direction of abuse and violence toward children and women. Jesus warned us that these days would come. That so-called Christians would attend such movies openly shows the degree of victory Satan has gained over the professing church. Like Eve, the church is listening to and choosing to be deceived by the smooth words of the snake.

    • Tina
      Posted at 11:27h, 01 March Reply

      Kirk! Great points made here in your comment. I’m also very thankful for people who are fighting the good fight and by our joy and excitement in serving the Lord, I pray more people will realize the emptiness in going after things in life that don’t fulfill. May we continue to strive for excellence in our life and help as many people as possible from being deceived!

  • Melanie
    Posted at 21:18h, 17 February Reply

    I loved the movie Fireproof good values and with God’s help you can have a healthy relationship!

    • Tina
      Posted at 11:25h, 01 March Reply

      Melanie! I agree! That was a fabulous movie. So many good things we all learned from watching that and such a raw and real film about what families deal with and go through in life. Awesome suggestion!

  • Karrie
    Posted at 14:40h, 23 February Reply

    That was bold! A lot of the hoopla is overstated and deceptive info as well.
    The tickets for the first weekend were sold 2 for 1 ONLINE. So people wanting to see it didn’t even have to show their faces at a ticket booth.
    I think it’s time to beware of Hollywood’s marketing spin as well… they have no shame about deceiving with numbers, fake quotes, and award
    nominations as selling points. I think even the “hacking” of Sony was a hoax, and they’ll try new ways to get news venues to do the chatter for them.
    Just my opinion.
    Hang in there!

    • Tina
      Posted at 11:35h, 01 March Reply

      I didn’t know about the two for one and buying online! Great point on people being able to “save face” by getting them this route than at the theater. I completely agree with stats being twisted to pump up the marketing of a certain movie to push their agenda. Keep up the great work in Hollywood woman! Can’t wait to connect sooner than later!

  • Tina
    Posted at 17:14h, 01 March Reply

    I received some emails regarding other things happening in the world of marketing for this film and one just blew me out of the water. I liked Amazon, but this is an ALL TIME LOW for this company. Beware! Adults only for viewing here….this is Amazon’s idea of cool marketing for all of their “50 Shades of Grey” goodies. AWFUL!

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