16 Jul, 2021 Can Your Kids Stand Strong At A Secular College?
by Bethany Dumbleton
Have you been preparing to send your kids to a secular college?
We all know that the education in America has taken wild twists and turns, especially in the last 10 years. If we look at the last 2-3 years we see even more rapid changes that have been happening. It’s always been a concern for Christian parents that our kids being would be influenced by unbiblical ideology. For example, think about the movie God’s Not Dead. The professor (Kevin Sorbo) is clearly out to prove a point and cause the main character to ditch his faith. However, I believe it isn’t primarily secular schools we need to be concerned with.
The Christian worldview has become extremely distorted in so many ways. In order for us to prepare our kids to be “in the world,” and “not of the world,” we must first teach them how to know what that means in today’s culture. We have a major disadvantage today when it comes to critical thinking and discernment because there are so many things labeled as “Christian” when they are in fact in complete opposition to the word of God. We want our kids to stand strong regardless of what college they attend. A Christian worldview will align with scripture, and that’s the number one way you can prepare them for college.
I have always been one to say that communication has to be open between a parent and their child, regardless of the stage of life they are currently in. If your kids don’t feel like they can discuss things with you, they won’t. Probably one of the hardest parts of sending your kids off to school is the fact that you will likely be communicating less, especially if they are moving out and onto campus.
Having built a foundation for healthy communication, you can feel free to ask your child about their daily experiences and trust that they will share with you. This gives you the opportunity to stay involved and create a different type of relationship than the one you previously had. Obviously, there will be pressures applied to them when they are out of the house and not under your direct supervision. We have to let our kids mature and grow and yes, even make mistakes. If we never let them make mistakes, they simply won’t know how to stand strong on their own.
Before we just let them loose, it’s important to encourage healthy habits. If your kids can’t seem to stick to the things that matter, they likely won’t be able to stand strong in a tough situation. This can be as small as setting a schedule and sticking to it. It can also be as big as denying themselves the instant gratification of a few too many drinks or getting involved in a relationship that they shouldn’t.
Establishing self-discipline with healthy habits will create a place inside of them that will give them a sense of confidence that they will need when the rubber meets the road. We could all do better at setting ourselves up for success when it comes to creating healthy habits.
Your kids are growing up. Most of the decisions they make now will reflect the job we did over the course of their life up until this point. Keep in mind, your child is still their own person and will make their own decisions. Not everything they do is a direct correlation to the job you did as a parent. Their ability to stand strong is not 100% reliant on how you did raising them. As you prepare for the day they leave home, look to the Holy Spirit for comfort and for counsel.
“When the enemy comes in like a flood, the Spirit of the Lord will lift up a standard against him.”
Bethany Dumbleton is the Counter Culture Mom Show Producer and Chief Operations Officer for Counter Culture Mom Ministries. She is first and foremost a devoted follower of Jesus Christ.
Her husband and two children are her main ministry which overflows into her life ministry. She knows that our children follow our example. She strives to help parents grow in Christ, so they may shepherd their children biblically.
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