06 Nov, 2014 YouTube Sex Ed? What Next?
Kids are going to YouTube to get educated on sex. And what they watch, will alarm you. Helpful tips for your kids on SexEd talks.
For years I’ve heard teens tell me crazy stories about what takes place in their Sex Ed class. From teachers putting condoms on bananas to middle school students learning about oral and anal sex! How is this legal? So many teens are being taught that sex is IN and everyone is DOING it and you’re a weirdo if you say no. The way I look at it, it’s easier to take your clothes OFF than to keep them ON in today’s society.
People, you have courage and class if you:
- Say NO!
- WAIT until your wedding night.
- RUN from those that pressure you to do it.
- STEER CLEAR from any media tempting you to be sexually active.
I’ve heard all the arguments before like, “You should always test drive the car before you buy it!” Well, think of the test driving phase as the dating phase (with no sex) and then the buying of the car as the getting married part. Plus you can’t get an STI from test driving a vehicle. So this phrase is obsolete.
In addition, we have Planned Parenthood pushing their agenda on our kids today. For instance, a friend in California said this organization lured teens at a movie theater by passing out condoms and inviting them to come to their “Sex Ed” class on the weekend to win iPods. One of their top books pushed on middle school students is entitled It’s Perfectly Normal, which states that kissing, touching, masturbating, nudity and graphic sex scenes are perfectly normal for your 10-year-old. Yes, you read this correctly. If a stranger were to do that to our child, they would be labeled a pedophile and locked behind bars!
It gets worse, this fall Chicago schools have mandated Sex Ed for kindergarteners! This curriculum follows the recommendations from the Future of Sex Education (FoSE) which includes senior officials from Planned Parenthood. In fact, the U.S. government has already ruled that parents do not have a right to control what material (sexual or otherwise) a public school exposes to their child. An article from The Education Reporter stated that back in 2005, “The U.S. Court of Appeals for the Ninth Circuit ruled on Nov. 2 that parents’ fundamental right to control the upbringing of their children does not extend beyond the threshold of the school door.” Wow!
I focus on how the media affects our teens, because they are exposed to more harmful sexual content from our “entertainment” than from any other source. Magazines show graphic sexual photos while movies, video games and TV shows are filled with so-called amazing STD-free sex that lasts 30 minutes. Back when I was in school, we hardly had any teen pregnancies, rape cases, or drug busts and Sex Ed 101 came primarily from mom and dad. The biggest crime was using too much Aqua Net hair spray and possibly causing a fire hazard over the bunsen burner during chemistry class. Wow have times changed!
When I see people like Laci Green, who has a huge following on YouTube for her dirty sex 101 video series, it makes me wonder just what education she received. What caused her to set her moral standards at such a low level? For the 2 million viewers that have seen her videos, I hope you decided to do the exact opposite of what she suggested. I can guarantee that she will not show up when you’re birthing a baby at 13, going through depression after having an abortion or finding out you have weeks to live because you contracted cervical cancer. Which, by the way, you are NOT protected from by using a condom as many teens believe! Anyway, let’s leave the Sex Ed class to the parents and not the media, crass class room curriculums, YouTube or anyone else out there that’s trying to make a buck off our kids.
Question: What is your family’s Sex Ed solution? You can leave a comment by clicking here.
JohnPosted at 15:50h, 08 November
Sex Ed is a positive influence in to day’s society. We as human beings naturally have sexual urges beginning around puberty. We want to touch ourselves and each other. Sex ed isn’t at all what you try to portray it as, and having just graduated high school, I can tell you that never have I been taught about sex without someone telling me that it’s okay not to do it and that abstinence is the best method to avoiding STIs and pregnancy. Never. Not in Middle School, High School, or even in College. We are STILL told and reinforced in the idea that abstinence is okay, as I can prove by a board put up in my dorm hallway. The tragedy in not having sex ed is when adults don’t know how to even have sex. They won’t know the risks of having sex without condoms even if you pull out. They won’t know what is happening if they get a yeast infection. They could catch a serious disease and not recognize the symptoms. Honestly, every sex ed class I’ve ever been in has done a pretty good job of scaring me about how often unplanned pregnancy can happen. Am I abstinent? Nope. But I guarantee I’d have done some really dumb things if it weren’t for all of my sex education and quite frankly may not be in college right now because I’d be trying to support and raise a child.
KimPosted at 15:35h, 19 November
I have to give you props for being a sexually active and knowledgeable college guy, and I sincerely hope your knowledge is tied to a big heaping dose of empathy and commitment. Your comment about not being in college due to trying to support a child can be perceived as a bit selfish and could be insulting to the young women who may have had emotional or physical consequences because of their involvement with you. But hey, no babies, no problems, right?
I agree that young people should be knowledgeable about sex, but I don’t think that “how to” instruction is the way to do it. As it is now, our sex ed programs tell kids pretty much everything they need to know about condom use, STDs and pregnancy. They have the knowledge, but they’re not using it. Why? Because rational decision making thought kinda flies out the window in the heat of the moment. Our sex ed programs also speak out a lot about abstinence as the only proven way to avoid those risks. Many of them aren’t using that, either.
Here’s what the “how to” approach to sex ed is missing: context and emotion. Sex should not be a recreational activity, nor should it be an impulse. Too many young men view it as such and fail to realize that women perceive it VERY differently. There’s an old saying that describes it very well, “Men give love to get sex, and women give sex to get love.”
Too many people know how to have sex, but sadly, too many fail to understand WHY to have sex or why they should wait.
I tried your approach to sex, and frankly, it got boring and lonely after a few years. However, I switched my tactics in my mid-20s and WAITED for the right person, right time and right life commitment. Wow, what a huge difference.
MichaelPosted at 12:53h, 16 November
I am glad you are still telling it like it is.
Keep up the good work!
TinaPosted at 14:57h, 18 November
Thank you for your support! Do you have any suggestions on what we can do to help educated our youth regarding Sex Ed besides what the majority of schools are telling them today? Have an awesome week!
TommyPosted at 12:57h, 16 November
Thank you for sending me the news for long time!
I’m sharing my new video in youtube!
You may like it!
God bless you!
TinaPosted at 14:52h, 18 November
Wow, it’s been years! Thank you for your comment! I will check out your you tube link regrading the 7 Seals of Revelation and Rapture. I too believe the time is very very short until Christ comes back. Urgency is all I feel pumping through my veins which I know many friends have the same thoughts and feelings. Time is short, let’s keep sharing truth around the world! I miss you and so happy we had the chance to work together on the medical mission trip to South America. A trip that changed my life for sure.
What have you seen through your years being a Doctor that the world needs to know regarding Sex Ed and what is taught, practiced, or what needs to change?
RachelPosted at 13:09h, 16 November
Thank you, Tina.
This is startling. I had to pass it on to my family, many of whom work with people/youth/kids. It is hard to have to learn about the ungodly stuff going on in our world, since as Christians we don’t like focusing on such terrible stuff. But, we need to be aware of it so we can stand against it.
Thank you for helping us to be ready to stand, so we don’t have our head buried in the sand with things freely going on around us since we were ignorant and didn’t stand. I pray God will give us all wisdom how to love people while still standing for Him! God bless you and give you wisdom as you take a stand and encourages others!
TinaPosted at 13:12h, 17 November
Thank you Rachel! Thanks for helping to spread the word! Yes, the enemy wants people to be distracted and deceived. The truth shall set us free! If there is any topic, issues, family struggle, etc. that you would like information on, please let me know and I can do the research and write about it to help you! It will also help educate me at the same time so I can reach more teens and parents with this info. I definitely know it’s easier to not stand up for something, but to be bold makes life more exciting doesn’t it 🙂 Thanks again!
kerriPosted at 19:02h, 17 November
How csn we parents fight this?Im in Ca
TinaPosted at 14:54h, 18 November
In the upcoming weeks I will be blogging about how we can talk to our kids about sex. As you know times have changed where it’s talked about at such a younger age than when we were kids. For starters, being engaged at your school to know what is being taught and to what ages is key. I know you are a great mom so I’m sure you’re already doing this.
It was the toughest decision, but for our family, I am currently homeschooling our kids. Common core standards and the sex topics talked about by other students and in the classrooms today helped me make that decision to homeschool. I will be sharing as I’m learning and growing in this new endeavor. If any other parents want to give us tips on what to do to talk to our kids about this important topic, please do tell!